I hate hearing my ex-boyfriend masturbate every night

DEAR DEIDRE: MY ex masturbates every night in our living room, but when I mentioned it he told me I was hearing things.

We split up three months ago but we can’t get out of our rental contract, so we have to keep living together. He’s now on the sofa.

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I’m a 28-year-old guy and he is 26.

We were together for three years. He broke up with me because he said he no longer fancied me.

So hearing him pleasure himself from the room next door – and for him to lie about doing it – really rubs salt into my wounds.

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I lie in bed wondering what other guys he is thinking about.

I don’t need nightly reminders of the fact he no longer wants me. It feels disrespectful.

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DEIDRE SAYS: Your ex probably lied because he was embarrassed that you had heard.

You can’t stop him doing this, but if he won’t be more discreet you could wear ear plugs or put on music to drown out the noises.

Being forced to share the same space while apart is tough. Comfort yourself with the knowledge that this won’t be forever.

My support pack, Mend Your Broken Heart, will help you to pick up the pieces and move on.

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