DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend won’t move in with me until we’ve had a month’s trial period living together in a motorhome.
I’ve said no because this isn’t what couples do, but he’s insisting.
I’m 29 and he’s 27. We’ve been in a serious relationship for three years and have talked about buying a flat together.
He’s got Asperger’s, which means he is not very good with change, and it’s likely this is why he’s suggesting this idea.
But it seems ridiculous. Being cramped together in a motorhome with a camping toilet is nothing like living in a flat.
It won’t prove anything except how much I hate camping holidays. Yet he thinks it will be romantic!
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If he loves and trusts me, as he says, then surely he should take a risk.
And If he can’t even move in with me after all this time together, how will he cope in the future if we have kids?
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DEIDRE SAYS: I’ve told him we need space. He doesn’t understand why I’m so upset.
You’re right that a camping trip – which you’d hate – isn’t the best introduction to co-habitation or any reflection of real life.
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Perhaps you both need to compromise. Rather than rushing into buying a place, which is a big commitment, you could find a short-term rental together.
You might both find it helpful to read The Asperger Couple’s Workbook, by Maxine Aston, which may help you to understand each other’s differences.
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